Enhance your Motivation – choose words carefully

Enhance your Motivation – choose words carefully

Words are extremely powerful, and the language you use plays a major role in your ability to put things into perspective and therefore your attitude of approach. This is important to note in regard to your conversations with other people and your internal dialogue.

Words are emotionally laden; for every thought you have a word you say and you have a physiological reaction. Your words cause a visceral reaction in you, especially negative ones, which seem to scream louder than positive ones. And the more extreme the negative language, the louder it screams. So if you say that a movie is the worst one you’ve ever seen, you will feel more strongly about it than if you just said, “That movie was bad.” That also means that if you say, “This is the worst thing that has ever happened to me,” you will be more affected than if you said, “This is bad but not the end of the world.”

What I’m getting at here is that you do not want to have melodramatic, histrionic, and overactive way of talking to yourself about life.

For example, I try to never use words like “horrible,” “disastrous,” or “catastrophic” to describe a flat tire or sitting in endless highway traffic when I’m in a hurry. Sure, those things are annoyances. They’re irritating and inconvenient. However, they’re not catastrophic and they’re certainly not disastrous, neither is it horrifying.

Nevertheless, I often hear people use words like those to describe things that don’t even almost qualify for that level of crisis, and they do so because they don’t have the right attitude of approach. They’re mentally abusing themselves by using the wrong words.

I have known couples whose wedding went awry – one groom drank too much, one bride tripped on her long veil, and a third couple’s bus full of wedding guests broke down in the pouring rain. They described these events as “devastating,” “a nightmare,” and “the worst day of my life.”

Admittedly, their weddings were not fairy-tale perfect and I am not trivializing the fact that they wanted this special day to go well. But “horrible” and “devastating” are words that describe Hurricane Katrina, 9/11, Tsunami, and a multitude of other tragedies. They aren’t appropriate descriptions of a melted wedding cake, tipsy groom, or rain-soaked guests.

Those things pale in comparison to what is really important in life, and if these kinds of events are truly the “worst moments” of your life, you have hit the jackpot or lottery! Again, if you are saying these things to yourself, you are just NOT using words to your advantage, you’re abusing them by telling yourself “negative” lies, and that you have a lack of clear, realistic perspective.

Questions will determines your thoughts, and your thoughts will then determines your life, so be careful on the words you choose to ask yourself. Most of us, when we see someone of extraordinary capability or someone who seems to have a superhuman capacity to deal with life’s challenges, think things like, “They’re so lucky! They’re so talented! They must have some special gift.” But in reality, the human brain has the capacity to produce answers faster than the “smartest” computer on earth, even considering today’s micro-technology with computers that calculate in nanoseconds (billionths of a second). It would take at least two buildings the size of Empire State building to house the storage capacity of your brain!


“Some men see things as they are, and say, ‘Why?’ I dream of things that never were, and say ‘Why not?’‘” – George Bernard Shaw

Thinking itself is nothing but the process of asking and answering questions. So by questioning yourself with the correct words you more often receive a “better” answer.

I cannot emphasize enough the importance of using the correct words. I don’t have to show you which words to use, which words are “correct” and “incorrect“. Most of us know the difference between positive and negative, empower and non-empowering. Any words that does NOT give you a positive feeling or able to empower you in some ways are considered to be “incorrect“. For instance, “incorrect” words which I have mentioned in this posts are: “horrible,” “devastating,” “catastrophic,” “Nightmare,” ” disastrous,” etc.

To sums it all up, It’s not the events that shape our life that determines how we feel and act, but rather, it’s the way we interpret our life experiences (asking questions with powerful words – negative or positive) that define our meaning of life.

“Learning to ask empowering questions in moments of crisis is a critical skill.” – Tony Robbins

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Excuses as dangerous weapon of self-destruction

Excuses are always followed by reasons of why you can’t do something.  “I can’t build my business, because I don’t feel like prospecting.  I can’t read this book, because I get a headache reading that much.  I can’t attend the seminar, because I don’t have a tine and it costs too much.”  When you make an excuse, you instantly plant a seed in your mind that you incapable of doing something.  This is personal self-destruction.  Every excuse destroys a little bit of belief in yourself and your ability to achieve your dream.

Without self-belief, there is no motivation to succeed.  That’s the main reason that I spend so much time immersing myself in personal self-development in the morning before I start my day.  Success and motivation is the first thing I hear and see in the morning and the last thing that I allow to go into my spirit as I drift off to sleep.  Why am I so disciplined?  Because I know that I could never overcome the adversity that I face daily if I didn’t continually reinforce my belief in myself and my dreams.  More importantly, I would not be confident in the decisions that I make without that belief.

When you start to question your abilities, you further put off making the decision, which is better known as procrastination.  Now, I don’t always agree with what the so-called experts say, but this is a point that I agree with 100%.  It’s like a breath of fresh air when you push the decision aside and stop letting it worry you for a while. Imagine if you have a beautiful car parked in your garage, excuses would be all the issues that you have with you thought was the best type of garage door opener, it just won’t work and you are not able to take the car out. However, procrastination is just a temporary fix.  It’s much more stressful to just let the decision hang over your head and possibly get more difficult as time goes by.  Like I said before, simply not making a decision is irresponsible.  Procrastination will also make you lazy.  Do you really want to be known as lazy and irresponsible?


Understand that you have the right to live your dream, but you have to crawl out from under the pile of excuses that have built up and make a decision to change.  Inside the word challenge is change.  You have to be willing to change the way you handle challenging decisions.  You can’t just remain where you are forever.  Remember, decision plus action equals results.  Take a look at your results. Are you completely satisfied with your success level in every area of your life?  Reread that question.  I said “completely satisfied”.  I did not say comfortable or complacent.  To be completely satisfied means that you have achieved every level of success that you can possibly achieve in that area of your life.  Personally, I don’t know anyone like that.

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5 Incredible Videos That can Help you Motivate yourself and Turn your Life Around

5 Incredible Videos That can Help you Motivate yourself and Turn your Life Around

Apparently, there’s that awful moment in your life where you think that living the life of your dreams isn’t something possible. We’ve to admit that, as human beings, there are certain moments in which we tend to doubt ourselves. Often, we ordinarily make lame excuses and we fail to take the necessary actions to turn our lives around.

Whenever you experience such moments, watching a motivational video can help you get back on the right track. A really good motivational video, encompassing a strong message, can help you focus on your energy and goals. Make sure to watch these 5 Videos That can Help you Motivate yourself and Turn your Life Around in no time.

Be Phenomenal

5 Incredible Videos That can Help you Motivate yourself and Turn your Life Around
This video emphasizes that we really need to start where we are, and we need to maximize whatever little we have with us. “Be Phenomenal” is a great compilation by Motivation Grid that will help you achieve greatness.
This video is virtually seven minutes long, yet it boasts incredible lessons of life. It encompasses a mix of great speeches by Erick Thomas, Les Brown, and Ray Lewis. Make sure you watch it with a paper and pad as you might need to write the things you’ll hear.

How Bad Do You Want It?

How Bad Do You Want It?

This is a five-minute video that unveils true insight into the kind of work, mental commitment as well as dedication it takes to really accomplish absolute success. It’s very healthy to have a dream and you’ve to work hard to achieve whatever you want in life. According to the video, you’ve to exceed your mental blocks if you really wish to accomplish true greatness at your craft and delight in your success.

Prove Them Wrong
5 Incredible Videos That can Help you Motivate yourself and Turn your Life AroundThis is yet another great compilation that features top motivational speakers along with great business people—including Les Brown, Jim Rohn, and Tony Robins. This video could probably be a perfect match for you, especially if someone has ever told you that you’re crazy, or that you can’t make it no matter how many times you try.

The video comprises top stories of individuals who’ve struggled and overcome all odds to achieve their greatness. It similarly boasts great leaders who, despite being mocked and scoffed, were able to achieve absolute success. In a nutshell, the main lesson here is that don’t allow others to dissuade you, but rather prove them wrong by achieving greatness.

Stress Is a Choice (Empty Pickle Jar)
“Stress Is a choice” emphasizes the fact that you shouldn’t spend the better part of your precious time and energy complaining over insignificant things. This will only deny you an opportunity to focus on the things that make you happy. It’s an inspiring video that reminds us to not just set our priorities, but we should equally take great care of the crucial things that matter in our lives.

5 Incredible Videos That can Help you Motivate yourself and Turn your Life Around

Deserve More
What’s the difference between someone who loses in life and one who wins? You’ll find perfect answers to this question in the video, in order to let you make informed choices in life. It critically explores the idea that life tends to respond to whatever we think we really deserve, but not essentially what we need.

This motivational video teaches you to desire more, and to want it so seriously because you know you deserve it. We should always strive to achieve what we deserve in life. We shouldn’t be disappointed but we must fight persistently until the end. It encompasses outstanding lessons about passion and perseverance to accomplish the life of your dreams.

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